The Art of Seduction Summary (P1 C5): The Natural

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The Natural embodies the inner child. 

He or she is spontaneous, sincere, and has no need (or want) to impress others. 

And just like a child, they evoke our sympathy. We want to protect and help them. They cut straight through our defenses. This is how they seduce.

The Natural has childlike qualities, but they are not like children. An adult that acts exactly like a child is not attractive. It’s pitiful. 

Rather, it’s the spirit of the child they have retained. 

There is an inner child in all of us. To be a Natural you must learn to let go without hesitation. Children are not self-conscious, and you shouldn’t be either. Just as when playing the Dandy, the Natural character is most successful when they go all-in.

The idea is simple. In the relationship where you want to seduce as a Natural, mentally position yourself as the younger, more naive one.

Naturals often have one or more of the following seductive qualities:

Innocence: Weakness and misunderstandings elicit sympathy and humor, which is a very seductive mixture. No adults are truly innocent, and you must not be viewed as trying to act innocent. Instead, learn to play up your natural flaws.

Impishness: Children are often fearless because they do not truly grasp the consequences of their actions. This lighthearted spirit is infectious. Thus, as an adult, you should let go of caution. Don’t worry about offending people. Let them see the glint in your eye to show that you don’t take anything seriously, and they will forgive you instantly.

Wonder Child: This is a child with a special talent, e.g., a musical prodigy, a master of chess, or a natural football player. The adult version is often a wonder child who has managed to hold onto that skill (or obtained a new one) in a way that seems effortless.

Undefensive Lover: As we get older, we learn to protect ourselves from painful experiences. We close ourselves off and opt to stay in our comfort zones. Children, on the other hand, are very open to experiences, and often chase them. This is the most attractive of the Natural’s qualities, since defensiveness kills attraction.

Seeming naive can be very attractive to others. It creates sympathy. Play up your vulnerability and helplessness, but not in a needy way. 

Display your ‘natural’ weakness by putting yourself in situations that make it seem as if someone could easily take advantage of you.

People often criticize spoiled children, but they often have a confidence that is very attractive later on in life.

They expect to be spoiled, and so they are. 

Even if you weren’t spoiled as a child, you can adopt the attitude. When you expect a lot from life, people are drawn to you.

Hesitation and awkwardness will kill a seduction. Like most other moods, they are contagious. When you hesitate, you are being self-conscious and needy. You are thinking of yourself and not the other person. People sense this and attraction will be lost. 

If you are awkward and nervous, your target will feel the same. 

Do the work to overcome your fear and awkwardness that has built up over the years. 

Never hesitate or show defensiveness.

Although charming, childish qualities can also be irritating. To prevent this, you must combine your childlike manner with adult wisdom.

The traits of a Natural can be very useful in certain situations, such as those times when you do not want to look superior or smarter than another. But if you are uncontrollably childish, you may seem pathetic. 

An older person may find it hard to pull off the Natural character. As you age, your Natural qualities should lean more towards the open spirit of a child than toward actual innocence.

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