The Art of Seduction Summary (P2 C5): Create a Need

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It’s impossible to seduce someone while they are perfectly content with life, because to seduce someone you must fill a void within them.

This means that if you are trying to seduce a content person, you must first create discontent within them. Stir within them feelings that they are missing something in life — e.g., adventure, ideals, or fun.

Creating discontent in your target must be done indirectly. No one likes to be told that they are inadequate or that their life is lacking. Instead, hint at it with comparisons to yourself or others.

We all have two faces. The one we show to the world and the real one. 

In truth, our egos and personalities are much more fragile than we display to others. 

Almost everyone is unfulfilled in some way. If you can pinpoint these doubts and anxieties in your target, you will be able to seduce them.

The idea is to make your confident target second guess themselves. Subtly bring to the surface what they lack, and then be the one to fill the void.

You need to expose their insecurities and past wounds. Those that can be best relieved with another person — you.

Be the one who breaks them out of their boring routine.

If you don’t want to focus on your target directly, concentrate on external aspects of their life. Their circumstances, friends, etc.

It’s not that they themselves are uninteresting, but rather that what surrounds them is.

You can also target their past. 

As we age, we all become less spontaneous and stray from our ideals. Bring this to the forefront of their mind and be the one to help them recapture their lost youth. 

Bring a sense of adventure.

Diminishing your target’s ego too much will have a negative effect. Their low self-esteem will make them think they are not worthy of your seduction. 

To combat this, always offer a soothing gesture after attacking their ego.

Also be very careful when targeting the insecurities of those who already have low self-esteem. You do not want to plunge them into darkness. Get them comfortable with you first so they don’t take it too hard.

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