She Comes First Summary (P3 C47 + 48): Routines

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When it comes to mastering the art of oral pleasure, technique is only half the equation.

True skill lies in knowing how to weave those techniques together into seamless, flowing routines that heighten arousal and lead to powerful orgasms. Think of it as composition: you’re not just hitting notes—you’re creating music.

These routines are designed to take you step by step, from the basics of tongue strokes and finger placement to advanced sequences that push the boundaries of sensation. Each one follows a structure rooted in six stages of arousal—the first kiss, establishing rhythm, developing tension, escalation, preorgasm, and orgasm—while incorporating the key elements of composition: stimulating the ten hot spots, coordinating the “actors” (tongue, fingers, hands), and layering in supporting techniques (gums, toys, restraints, etc. when desired).

Let’s walk through them.

This routine is about simplicity. You’ll focus on tongue strokes with minimal finger involvement while paying close attention to her responses.

Stage 1: First Kiss (less than one minute)

• Tongue: Long, slow stroke from bottom to top, light and gentle.

• Hand: Both hands under her buttocks, legs partially apart, firm supportive grip.

Stage 2: Establishing Rhythm (3–5 minutes)

• Tongue: Vertical halfway licks (5), followed by a full stroke brushing the clitoral head. Focus mainly on labia and frenulum.

• Finger: One finger partially inserted.

• Hand: Support buttocks, straddling cheeks.

Stage 3: Developing Tension (5–10 minutes)

• Tongue: Alternate vertical and horizontal strokes. Graze the clitoral head gently—never too soon or too strong.

• Finger: Keep one inside; feel pelvic muscles. Let other fingers graze vulva and perineum.

Stage 4: Escalation (3–5 minutes)

• Tongue: Blend vertical/horizontal strokes; press tongue into clitoral head and hold.

• Fingers: Insert a second finger, pressing up against the vaginal ceiling to find the clitoral cluster.

• Hand: Stimulate the perineum with your thumb while supporting her.

Stage 5: Preorgasm (3–5 minutes)

• Tongue: Firm pressure against clitoral head. Slow strokes. Let her grind against you.

• Fingers: Two inside, thumb against frenulum for added pressure.

• Hand: Keep her aligned and supported; legs close together.

Stage 6: Orgasm (less than one minute)

• Tongue: Hold steady pressure on the clitoral head. Light stroke after climax.

• Fingers: Maintain pressure against clitoral cluster and frenulum.

• Hand: Anchor her as contractions hit.

Comments: Observe. Learn. Stay gentle and don’t overstimulate early. Use a vibrator instead of fingers if needed.

This variation builds on Routine 1 but integrates more finger play and gum pressure.

Stage 1: First Kiss

• Tongue: Long, slow stroke, featherlight.

• Finger: Press pubic mound with your hand to tighten entrance.

• Hand: Other hand under buttocks, thumb against perineum.

Stage 2: Establishing Rhythm

• Tongue: Same as Routine 1.

• Finger: Keep pressure on pubic mound to expose clitoris.

• Hand: Maintain thumb on perineum.

Stage 3: Developing Tension

• Tongue: Vertical/horizontal alternation.

• Finger: Insert index, explore vaginal floor, ceiling, and walls. Hold clitoral cluster.

• Hand: Continue perineum pressure.

Stage 4: Escalation

• Tongue: Press gum or upper lip into front commissure while licking.

• Fingers: Add second finger; come-hither strokes on cluster and perineum.

• Hand: Graze anal area with thumb.

Stage 5: Preorgasm

• Tongue: Strong gum/lip pressure, firmer strokes on clitoral head.

• Fingers: Clasp clitoral cluster; thumb on frenulum.

• Hand: Stimulate anal area while supporting.

Stage 6: Orgasm

• Tongue: Press tongue firmly, gums for resistance.

• Fingers: Keep cluster and frenulum locked.

• Hand: Support buttocks, align clitoral contact.

Comments: This one’s about pressure and precision—understand how gums and fingertips balance tongue play.

Now we integrate all the major areas—tongue, gums, fingers, frenulum, clitoral cluster, and even anal play.

Highlights:

• First kiss begins with gentle nibbling.

• Tongue strokes expand to vertical, horizontal, and diagonal.

• Introduce “rope-a-dope” strokes (still tongue, then sudden flutters).

• Fingers clasp clitoral cluster and frenulum simultaneously.

• Thumb tip enters anus during preorgasm.

• Orgasm stage integrates gum pressure, tongue flourishes, and full perineal play.

Comments: This is where it all comes together—layered stimulation across multiple zones.

This sequence builds on Routine 3 but adds positional variety, especially a side “semisplit” for deeper access.

Key Variations:

• Semisplit position lets your tongue explore from inside out, grazing clitoral cluster directly.

• During escalation, teeth and gums add intensity.

• Preorgasm phase includes inserting a third finger or using the “under and up” technique for deep stimulation.

• Anal massage enhances orgasmic contractions.

Comments: Positional changes open new angles of stimulation and keep the experience fresh.

This one strips away fingers entirely, focusing solely on the tongue for slow, teasing orgasms.

• Featherlight tongue strokes—sometimes grazing, sometimes still.

• Hands adjust her position: legs up, single leg raised, or semisplit.

• Tease by almost licking without touching, then skim the clitoral head.

• Use flat tongue as resistance while she grinds.

• In preorgasm, bring her legs tightly together, press her mound, and tighten entrance.

• Finish with delicate, precise strokes until orgasm hits sharp and sudden.

Comments: Excruciatingly tantalizing. Requires patience and restraint.

Inspired by Taoist sex practices, this routine focuses on prolonging her preorgasm phase.

• Bring her to the brink, then pull back—stop strokes, lighten pressure, or pause completely for a few seconds.

• Resume with firm pressure and strokes, only to pull back again.

• You can even let her hit the very first contraction, then withdraw—her orgasm will erupt more explosively when you return.

• Add restraint play if desired to heighten anticipation.

• You may also mirror the practice by edging yourself—rubbing against her leg while stopping before release.

Comments: This is about discipline, control, and heightening her pleasure by stretching the tension as long as possible.

Nietzsche once said we should live each moment as though we were sentenced to repeat it forever. While most of us can’t live every moment that way, we can certainly make love that way.

Too often we postpone, distract ourselves, or fall into ruts. But in sex—as in life—the artistry lies in presence. By slowing down, savoring each stage, and treating every routine like an unchangeable work of art, we create moments worth reliving endlessly.

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